Trying for More? Be Ready to Lose a Few
Try an alternate career or aim for a higher goal, and you’ll see most of the assumed “support” checking out of your life.
These could be friends, family members, relatives, colleagues—anyone you expected support from. You’ll see them support other people with similar goals, but not you.
They’ll gift you something worse than criticism: abandonment. As if this new “trying” version of yours doesn’t exist. Some will even pull back the support they were already providing, leaving you to wonder if you committed a crime.
At times, you’ll know the reason; other times, you’ll be left guessing. You’ll doubt whether they’ve started disliking you or just the fact that you’re trying to be more. A few good ones might still offer support (which could include well-meant criticism), but beyond those few, all you’ll find is silence.
This is why you often hear people say, “Don’t share your dreams with others,” “Keep it private,” “Don’t reveal until it’s done.” Because somewhere along the way, we turned attempting into something contemptible.
And I’m not even talking about aiming to send people to Mars, invent a cure for cancer, or solve world hunger. Even relatively modest goals like switching careers or starting a small venture of your own won’t find many buyers within your circle.
The silver lining is the few relatively unknown, distant, new people who’ll support you out of the blue. People with similar ambitions and lonely journeys. People abandoned by their own, just like you. These people will become your new allies. With them, you’ll form new alliances.
Alliances based on ambition, with the spirit of becoming more than what you are today.